Mars · Square
You may feel self-doubt and inadequacy today. You are probably extra sensitive today, so don't take offense where none is meant. If you are taking medication, remember that less is more because of your heightened sensitivity. Watch that people don't take advantage of you with a sob story or some deal that sounds too good to be true. Stay alert to people not telling you the whole story behind something. Take care of your physical self as your immune system might not be as strong today as usual.
This is a challenging position, as you have difficulty trusting in your ability to go after things that you want in a direct manner. It may also be that you have difficulty pinpointing what it is that you want, or that part of you doesn’t feel you deserve it due to a basic lack of self-confidence. You fear rejection as well as criticism, and often use roundabout means to go after what you want.
Your imagination is so powerful that it can be hard to trust your instincts. You easily imagine things going wrong, just as you easily fantasize about good things! Your desire nature is strong yet also very suggestible. You’re attracted to mysteries and intrigue. Sexual experimentation is likely, as you are forever addicted to sensuality and unusual or perhaps even what many would consider perverted sexual scenarios. However, your sensual appetite might be much like a bottomless pit, and you could find yourself forever in a state of wanting more, tiring of regular sexual scenarios quickly, and endlessly searching for the next sensation. If an addiction to fantasy is present, you can find yourself constantly chasing a new and more complicated fantasy. It is only when you get into touch with your heart and discover your true desires that you realize that sensations are merely sensations–not deeply satisfying or fulfilling.
Fears of sexual inadequacy can be great with this position, and you may either deny yourself as a result, or overcompensate, seeking out experiences in which you are pretty much assured positive feedback. Some of you will experience both of these extremes in your lifetime. I have a client with this position who has a “trophy” wife, and she often denies him, and even belittles him, on a sexual level. He accepts this but “gets her back” behind her back, having serial affairs with women who are not considered as attractive for whatever reason and with whom he attempts to reclaim his power.
One of the interesting things about this position is that if you are involved in immoral activities, guilt has a way of cropping up in unusual ways, and could lead you on a self-destructive path–and you might even know that you’re heading that way, yet you compulsively follow that path. Part of you might want to get caught! You might, for example, know in your mind that doing something is risky, yet you compulsively do it anyhow, perhaps even finding the challenge invigorating.
Although you can be very creative at keeping your motives and personal agenda hidden–in fact, many of you seem on the surface of things to be quite gentle and yielding–you might eventually become resentful if you feel the need to resort to sneakiness in order to get what you want out of life. This is one of the things that has struck me as the most common characteristics of Mars-Neptune people. It’s not that they don’t get angry or show that anger. However, many will give in to another’s desires more often than not, yet become resentful of that person who seems to have control over them. Some will give up their power to a partner, for example, often taking the role as the one who gives in or gives up things in order to make the other happy. However, resentment for this builds, and while people with harmonious Mars-Neptune aspects more easily yield to others without anger for doing so, those with hard Mars-Neptune aspects are more likely to feel stepped upon, and to retaliate in covert ways. If you do feel resentment for giving up your power to someone else, learn to avoid giving it up unless you truly understand that you are doing it for yourself, and not for someone else. Resentments have a way of building and distorting themselves into ugly matter if you don’t deal with them properly and directly. You are often passive-aggressive in your approach to others, and this can cause a lot of problems in your life.
You are usually found chasing a dream… or a fantasy. The former is probably the better path.
Somehow, others are bound to eventually sense that you are not to be trusted, and this is often for good reason! You may not like to admit this to yourself, as you may have built excuses for your deceptive or sneaky behavior. However, adopting a more direct and assertive approach to life is something that you should be working towards. You will need to get over your feelings of guilt when you do adopt this approach. Learning to take responsibility for your actions, and to avoid blaming others for failures, is important.
At your worst, you can be disorganized in your approach to life, easily procrastinating and lacking follow-through when you do begin a task. Some of the most important lessons you need to learn in life are self-control, self-assertion, and trust in yourself. At your best, you are a creative person with a powerful imagination and great stores of compassion.
Your attempts to assert yourself often result in turmoil for you and/or for others. You tend to swing from one extreme to the other–asserting your needs powerfully at times and at others slipping into a state of total apathy. Passive-aggressiveness can be a problem in your life. Ordinary life often seems drab and uninteresting to you and you must have something that stirs your imagination, some vision or ideal or dream to motivate you. You have a strong urge to act out your fantasies or to live your dream, and you will DO things that others only talk about or dream about. Artistic creation, drama, or other areas in which you can express yourself imaginatively are excellent for you. You tend to either overestimate or underestimate your own power and abilities.
You may lead a somewhat sexually repressed life although your sexual needs are significant. You could suffer from anxieties regarding your sexuality (probably carried over from parental conditioning around sex) and therefore find it difficult to find satisfaction in this area. However, this tends to change as you mature. As you overcome the urge to indulge in momentary physical pleasures, you build the capacity for spiritual ecstasy.
You may be attracted to persons who are unavailable, perhaps because they are already married or simply hard to reach. Sometimes you find it more convenient to see your lover as you wish her to be rather than as she really is. You may find that you lower your standards when choosing a lover and end up with someone who is interested in you primarily for sex, or that the relationship is largely unfulfilling. Disappointments in love may be frequent, although this is also something that improves with age! You are an extremely imaginative lover, and you frequently engage in fanciful and intricate fantasies. This may sometimes interfere with “real life”, but if you channel this energy well, it can most certainly improve your sex life. Your imagination is powerful, but it can also get the best of you. You may imagine complex scenarios and get yourself all riled up about what your partner may have done when she wasn’t around! — Interpretation from our LoveStyles Report.
Some Famous People with the Mars in Hard Aspect to Neptune: Squares – Ben Affleck, James Barber, Erma Bombeck, Jimmy Buffet, Barbara Bush, Sandra Dee, Melissa Etheridge, Eddie Fisher, Jodie Foster, Conan O’Brien, Diana Ross, Rod Stewart, Andy Warhol, Sharon Tate. Oppositions – Paula Abdul, Alan Alda, Maya Angelou, Jim Bakker, Truman Capote, Johnny Cash, Rita Coolidge, Terry Fox, Katharine Hepburn, Tommy Hilfiger, Jimmy Hoffa, Steve McQueen, Joe Namath, Burt Reynolds, George Segal, Elizabeth Taylor, Alicia Witt, Tiger Woods.
